Boundaries and Narcissists

boundary crossing and narcissists

Boundaries: Guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for themselves what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him or her and how they will respond when someone steps outside those limits.

Because Narcissists are all about themselves, they have no respect for other people’s boundaries.  They view other people’s boundaries as either a challenge or as an annoyance.  A victim cannot have both healthy boundaries and a Narcissist in their life.  Something has to give.  The best Narcissist repellant out there is to first see the signs so you can avoid them coming, and then second, have good boundaries, so if they do sneak under your radar, you will have zero tolerance for their nonsense and chaos.

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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse.

My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.

Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.

It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse. My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life. Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics. It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.

2 Comments

  1. What can you do when a narcissist alienated you from your adult children. How can recover them? They have being brainswashed and they don’t want to talk to me anymore. I am the bad person

  2. I am so sorry that you are going through this. What you are describing is called, “Parental Alientation Syndrome”, one definition of this term is that it’s where a Narcissist or other form of manipulative person manipulates the children into thinking the other parent (the victim) is the problem. So, in order to try and undo the brainwashing of your adult children (which won’t be easy), it might help to write them a letter (since they don’t want to talk to you), and right off the bat show them that you acknowledge their pain and hurt, and show that you are accountable for certain things that have happened that you do take responsibility for. This will show them that you do have insight into what happened, as well as your part in things. What you don’t want to do is to try to slam your ex–as this will probably make them defensive. You could also let them know that you have your own side of the story too, not that you want to put them in the middle, but that you’d love an opportunity to tell it if they are open to hearing it.

    You may even want to tell them that you love them, and that you would love a relationship of some sort with them, and then leave it up to them.

    (((hugs)))

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