“CeeCee’s” Story

narcissistic behavior in relationships
Dear Dana,
(I am posting this account of something that happened to me when I was with my first same sex partner in response to your Instagram Post looking for people that have undergone narcissistic abuse in same sex relationships.)
My first partner was very charming and would not take no for an answer. I had only dated men until this time in my life. I never thought about women or dating them anyway, I decided to go with the flow.
The relationship was intense and my partner was never satisfied with anything. Mind you, I was working full time as preschool teacher and she doing house chores or so I thought she was. One weekend we drove to Jacksonville, Florida to meet her parents. It was awful.  Her parents did not like that she was gay and were in denial about it the entire visit so much so that her father refused to call me by name.
It was a very long weekend and it was also the turning point in our relationship. My partner became extremely abuse towards me both physically and verbally. She blamed me for her father not accepting her sexuality and would start yelling at me and hitting me. During one altercation she punched me in my nose with her fist that had her class ring on it and broke my nose instantly. I heard the bone break. We went to urgent care and I don’t remember what story I told as to how my nose was broken but it was indeed broken.
 Other incidents included her chasing me down the street because I was trying to get way from her and I messed up ankle fairly badly. I stayed for three years. I was raised in a home with two parents that were both abusive narcissists, so this abuse behavior was all I knew. One day my partner was again mad about her father not accepting her sexuality and she began to hit me in the the head with the telephone. I waited for just the right moment and punched her in her eye. She had recently starting working so she went to work with a black eye for a month.
 Christmas of one year I decided I had enough and when I returned home from visiting my family, I decided to move out. She had gone home to another city to be with her family over the holidays. I had all her friends and family help me move to another part of town. When my ex partner returned to our apartment she found she had nothing but  a cold hard floor to sleep on.
To this day my ankle has never been right, and I have had two surgeries on it. I have a deviated septum in my nose and can only breathe out of one nostril I still need surgery to fix it. I did find my ex here on facebook and I wrote her a letter telling her what a sorry sack of s**t she is . She never once apologized except in the moment after the fight only to repeat the same awful behavior. It took me 15 years to write that letter but I’m glad I did. Like the true Narc she is she never responded. She wants to fool herself into thinking what a fabulous person she is and that she never abused me. I have never shared this story publicly before but there it is.

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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse.

My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.

Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.

It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse. My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life. Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics. It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.

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