Want to Know WHY You Are Dating a Narcissist?

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Do you want to know why you are dating a Narcissist? Have you dated more than one Narcissist?

Are you curious as to why?

In this video I go over what I feel to be the most profound and eye-opening question I’ve come across so far in my journey toward both understanding and healing.

Like most people, I’d heard the theory that we tend to date people that are like our parents. Some of the people I’ve dated had good qualities of either my mom or dad, and some had some of their not so great qualities. While I found that to be interesting, I didn’t really find it helpful in choosing better partners.

Then recently, I came across a great question that I feel really made everything make so much more sense.

This was such an aha moment for me–and the missing piece when it came to understanding why I was attracted to Narcissistic men.  Seriously, this question was the missing piece in the puzzle for me, and I really think it will help to shine a light on some things for you too.

Let me know what you think of this question, and any aha moments it may have given you!

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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse.

My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.

Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.

It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse. My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life. Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics. It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.

3 Comments

  1. Hi Dana, YOu are a wealth of information. My vulnerabilities are exactly the same as yours. I feel ignored and unloved. Although I didnt trust the shower of attention I as getting I still loved getting it. Its so hard to walk away especially in the beginning. I knew I shouldve done just that I felt something wasnt right and had red flags all over the place. I was weakened by him, and under his spell.

  2. Hi Diane,

    Going with our gut instinct is really huge. That is one of the biggest lessons I learned from all of this. Now that you know the signs, and one of your vulnerabilities, hopefully you can avoid these people in the future. <3

  3. Blessings Dana I think the whole arrested development phenomena is driven by this very perhaps unspoken question of what do I feel I did not get from my parents I can say this: now that I am a parent I know how serious and difficult it is to be responsible for someone else’s life I grew up the day I saw my mother as a woman with her own fears being left with four children and how my father never took her dancing again after they were married So this question is hard to answer because whatever my parents did not give me I know they were hurting too and I just feel empathy now But I am 61 so it took a while The question I am now most concerned with about narcs is how they use abuse by proxy The last narc used an attorney Attorneys are great for abuse by proxy because as an attorney they can legally abuse you and lie and claim they are just zealously advocating for their client and get away with it! This was a horrible terrifying realization for me Of course the narc lied to the attorney but she was so abusive to me threatening to call the authorities on me because of what I had done to the narc!!! I could not believe it how my integrity was brutalized by this team the attorney and the narc I even emailed the attorney an article by Sam Vankin on abuse by proxy She was an attorney who was a narc !!
    Of course the narc also threatened abuse by proxy with other people including his brother who is a doctor Here is this man his attorney his brother even his daughter and other people threatening me while I am trying to be safe and figure out what is going on and plan to get out and they all believed it was me doing something to him and abusing me bullying me defaming me I still cannot comprehend it Abuse by proxy makes you very vulnerable and drains you of your confidence They should all be prosecuted for abuse by proxy

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