Episode 10: Should I Warn His New Girlfriend That He’s a Narcissist?

Dana Morningstar

In this episode I discuss the pros and cons of trying to warn a new person their their “Prince (or Princess) Charming” is really narcissistic and abusive.

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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse.

My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.

Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.

It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse. My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life. Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics. It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.

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  1. Listened to your post. I agree. I think we as women need to tell others about the narcs we left, especially their new victims. We as women in past ages have endured and out of shame remained quiet. That was our grandmothers’ and moms’ era. That helped keep women down. Those were the good ‘ol days, cept they were only good for the good ‘ol boys in that club. That club is history. If we keep these secrets out of what, shame?, then only more people suffer. If it weren’t for Oprah or the internet or Dr. Phil and we still depended on just each other’s word of mouth, we would still all be in the dark about these narcs. I agree, attempting to frame it is key if it is a one on one encounter with his latest victim. How well she will listen to your attempt to explain is the key factor. Telling caring friends of hers might be the back door approach as long as those friends have integrity and smarts and are not the gossipy type. Too bad we can’t tag the narcs in town with a “Scarlet N’ on their clothes. I think, cloaking the truth is the only way they get and damage their next victim. Someone’s daughter. Someone’s sister. Someone’s best friend. We owe it to the next generation to be the village Oprah. To deal with the tough subjects that face women, under the well worn veil of village secrecy. Honor, Integrity, Truth, Justice and Yes Unveiling Known Danger are never easy but they are essential if we are all to have worthwhile lives. To know someone is dangerous and not alert innocent bystanders in their path is the same as being a witness to any crime and allowing that crime to continue. You are in effect the narcissist’s accomplice. He is counting on you to remain silent. I would also say, in truth, the Narc himself is still clueless as to who or what he is. That is more dangerous than any self knowledge he could possibly have. It makes him ignorant of the danger he possesses. Saying nothing, to any woman in town that shows an interest in him, is the same as standing by and watching a child get bullied in the park and not calling out that bully. It is cowardice and weak to do otherwise. It is shameful to look the other way and pretend she will get different results with the same him. I think we should all wear t shirts or ribbons that identify us, especially when we are in predominantly women events. The silent due more harm to the innocent than they know. Had I been warned about this, had someone real warned me earlier than the internet eventually did 5 short years ago, think of the abuse I would have never known. think of a normal childhood my children would have enjoyed. think of the person I would have become. Shame on all of us who hide the truth. Shame on any of us who recognize a full blown narc and don’t call him out on the carpet to that village. No one should give any of them a pass to create only more havoc and destruction in other’s lives. Ever.

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