Episode 13 of the “Ask a Question” Show: How to Get Over the Love Bombing and Love a Boring Guy

FAQs about Narcissists

In this episode, Rose asks, “How to “Get Over” the Love Bombing and Fall in Love With a Boring Guy”.

I give my two cents, and I hope that you’ll give yours too in the comments down below. Let’s see if together we can help shed some light on this for Rose . 🙂

Disclaimer: I am not a therapist, doctor, attorney, or expert in Narcissism…or anything at all really. If anything, I am a student of life, love, behavior and behavior change.

My experience and input comes from being a former advocate of victims of domestic violence, a former victim of Narcissistic abuse, and from (currently) being a psychiatric nurse.

* I am moving away from using the term “Narcissist” as I find it only seems to add a tremendous amount of confusion to things–not to mention there’s a very solid chance the word will be removed from the DSM here in the near future. Instead, I want people to focus on what matters, and that is the behaviors of people that I’m now referring to as “manipulative, dangerous and destructive people”.

I’m on a personal mission to share all my lessons learned from highly manipulative, dangerous, and destructive people in order to help YOU get all the clarity, closure, and healing you need in order to avoid, and recover from, these kinds of people.

Remember: You are not crazy. You are not alone. And yes, you really can heal from this.

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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse.

My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.

Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.

It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse. My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life. Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics. It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.

2 Comments

  1. Awesome episode as always, Dana. I looked back at txt messages I had emailed to myself from when my husband and I were dating and I can totally see the love bombing after the fact. At the time I didn’t, I just thought, wow its so great I finally found a guy who is SO in to me after just being rejected by someone I liked! But like 5 days after we started talking he was telling me how much he cared about me and liked me. I think once you get some distance from them you see the behaviors more clearly and that’s why no contact or as little as possible is soooo important. He moved out about 2 months ago and I’ve only interacted with him in person once since then. I could see that he expected his “charms” to have certain effect on me and they didn’t. Once you see behind their mask to the ugly truth of what they are it just isn’t powerful over you anymore.

  2. Hi Dana!

    Just wanted you to know, I changed his contact info to pet Cemetary and changed the picture to a caution poison sign. In 2 days I am blocking all ways of communication and going no contact. I have only half assed the no contact before. He pulls me back in with incessant, heart breaking messages….only to start his game all over again and wind up right back here in a week or a month or sometimes only a few days. I feel a deep pull to help anyone who is hurting. I care so much about him, it makes it so hard to ignore his pleas. When I have tried to leave before, I could not keep him blocked. I felt guilty. And I justified unblocking because I needed to know he was okay. And also to gauge his mental state to know if I should be concerned about anyone’s safety. Do you have any advice on how to fight my nature and keep him blocked when it feels wrong in my core to do so? How do I make self preservation my priority when so much of me stubbornly clings to wanting and preserving “we”?

    With much love,
    Tiffany

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