Episode 15 of the “Ask a Question” Show: My boyfriend has always had questionable behavior…is he a Narcissist?

FAQs about Narcissists

In this episode Haley asks, “My boyfriend has always had questionable behavior…is he a Narcissist?”

I give my response, and I hope that you’ll give yours too in the comments down below. Let’s see if together we can help shed some light on this for Haley. 🙂

Disclaimer: I am not a therapist, doctor, attorney, or expert in Narcissism…or anything at all really. If anything, I am a student of life, love, behavior and behavior change.

My experience and input comes from being a former advocate of victims of domestic violence, a former victim of Narcissistic abuse, and from (currently) being a psychiatric nurse.

* I am moving away from using the term “Narcissist” as I find it only seems to add a tremendous amount of confusion to things–not to mention there’s a very solid chance the word will be removed from the DSM here in the near future. Instead, I want people to focus on what matters, and that is the behaviors of people that I’m now referring to as “manipulative, dangerous and destructive people”.

I’m on a personal mission to share all my lessons learned from highly manipulative, dangerous, and destructive people in order to help YOU get all the clarity, closure, and healing you need in order to avoid, and recover from, these kinds of people.

Remember: You are not crazy. You are not alone. And yes, you really can heal from this.

Questions? Comments? Concerns? Frustrations? Ideas? Need some support? Just want to say hi? Let me know!

dana@NarcissistSupport.com

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All manipulative people have about the same predictably unpredictable behavior. The good news is that they all come with the same set of red flags.

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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse.

My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.

Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.

It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse. My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life. Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics. It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.

6 Comments

  1. My ex just moved out after a drunken night. He went into a rage destroyed my car and pushed me into a wall. My son called the police. I have been noticing him changing being distant. This is the third time he has left. The name calling and violent rage started getting worse and worse. Because I got upset about him texting with another woman. He had been living with me. I payed for everything even when we would go out.When I would be home with him I felt alone. Almost as if he didnt like me at all. He would disagree with everything i said even small things like “Its hot out today” He would disagree even though it was. He left saying he was in an unhealthy relationship but that after time apart we might work things out. I told him no I was never going to allow him to walk out on me again. A day later hes texting me calling me horrible names and then saying i love you literally in the same texts. I have been ignoring all texts. This all happened within the last week. Im so glad I came across you website. I now see the situation for what it is and that he never loved me at all. By the way hes 43 and has either lived with his mom or roomate most of his life. No steady job either.And of course all his exs including ex wife all cheated and did him wrong. He is constantly upset with someone or something going on in the world.

  2. I’m glad that you are done with him. …Please be extra safe right now. It concerns me that he’s had a behavior change. Please get your locks re-keyed or changed ASAP, and take whatever precautions you need to protect yourself in case he surfaces again in a drunken rage. …And document everything. Every text message, every phone call, etc. in case you need to show this all to a judge you want to make sure you have a very solid case. Be safe, and (((big hugs))) to you and your son. <3

  3. Hmm…great question. I’m gonna tell you the truth–that is most likely going to be really hard, and probably won’t end well. I would anticipate that he will tell them a bunch of lies about you and what happened. Hopefully this won’t be the case, but I’d plan for it. How are these mutual friends acting toward you now? Are they open to the idea that you and he will have very different versions about what happened, and that they won’t take sides?

  4. The sad thing is I met all these people through him at a bar he would go to. A lot of them don’t like him and some actually warned me to stay away from him. I didn’t listen. Some have reached out to me but don’t want to get to involved. He can be intimidating. Some have told me they tolerate him. I just like going up there and hanging out. But he’s there like every night. He actually called me today accusing me of lying and cheating. I lost it I told him he’s making things up and to stay out of my life. I told him I wasn’t going to let him do this to me ever again and to move on its over. Then he tried to say that I was probably already dating agsin. I told him it’s none of his business what I do nor is it my business to know what he does. Then I just hung up.

  5. Ugh. That sounds really frustrating. It’s a very common (and really frustrating) manipulative technique where they try to make their partner feel guilty–the whole, “you are probably already dating again” is just that. You handled it really well. Block his number, and him on Facebook. Set up his emails to go to spam, and avoid him–hopefully he will move on.

    I would also encourage you to join the support group if you haven’t already: http://www.NarcissistSupport.com/forum <3

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