After experiencing the highs of love bombing, and the whirlwind romance that they thought was their soul mate only to be dropped to the lowest lows, many people are terrified to date again.
But there are major differences between love bombing and love. Love bombing starts off hot and heavy. It’s constant communication and complements. It’s rushing all forms of intimacy–sex, opening up about your life, moving in together (or talking about moving in together), talking about marriage–all within the first few months of dating a person.
Love is something that takes time to develop. It is based on dignity and respect. Love is kindness, caring, and consideration of the other person and their feelings.
Love is not a one-sided dynamic in which one person is dragged through hell and has to continually look the other way and try to “forgive” their partner of all their wrong doings in order to keep the relationship together. It does not envy, it does not boast. It does not abuse. It does not cheat, lie, or deceive. It does not demand trust or forgiveness when it is not earned.
Our love, like our compassion, is not complete if it does not include ourselves. Because while you may love them, you have to love yourself enough to walk away when someone is mistreating you.
From the full livestream October 19th 2016
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Disclaimer: I am not a therapist, doctor, attorney, or expert in Narcissism…or anything at all really. If anything, I am a student of life, love, behavior and behavior change, and a woman who is dedicated to thriving.
Professionally, I worked as an advocate for victims of domestic violence at a domestic violence shelter, and currently I am a psychiatric nurse. Personally, I have been through two relationships with narcissists, and have been able to not only survive those, but have been able to move forward and thrive.
My goal with these videos is to share all of my lessons learned, as well as to start many important conversations about abuse, and recovery with the hopes that together we can provide the clarity, closure, and healing that we all deserve.
Remember: You are not crazy. You are not alone. And yes, you really can heal from this.
My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.
Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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