Lots of people (myself included) have gotten stuck with trying to navigate dating after narcissitic abuse. They may have heard the advice of “date a boring guy (or gal).” But the reality is that the opposite of a charming, intense, love bomber isn’t a boring person, it’s a likable, sincere, caring person that likes you for you. It takes time and practice to sort out a sincere person from an insincere person, and the best way to do this is to take things slowly so you can see who they really are. It’s a lot easier to see things clearly when we don’t have a deep emotional investment in someone, and falling for someone right out of the gate is a problem for those very reasons. You’ve heard me mention the website before, and frankly, I can’t mention it enough because I’m such a huge fan of it, but checkout meetup.com. It’s not a dating site, and many groups are free and many activities are low cost. It can be a great way to meet new people based on the same types of things that you enjoy doing. 🙂
My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.
Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
Latest posts by Dana (see all)
- Episode 69: What are healthy boundaries? - September 25, 2017
- Episode 68:My boyfriend doesn’t care about my feelings. Is he a narcissist? - September 22, 2017
- Episode 67:Do you have any tips for how to get my narcissist friend out of my life? - September 20, 2017