I have known this covert narcissist for the past six years. He love bombed me endlessly, made me feel like the most wonderful person on this earth, and I fell head over heels for him. I loved his good bits and I still do because they are really good. I moved an hour away from my home to be near him. Our secret relationship has been on and off a lot since then.
He described his wife as a cold housewife living a cloistered life with no interest or hobbies. He has one official Facebook profile and several fake ones (which I discovered on Facebook and dating sites) for supply when he gets bored. His wife has no idea. He just won’t separate from her and she is fiercely holding onto this marriage, wanting the happy family image with the backing of their 24 year old daughter who is an overt narcissist herself.
His wife recently opened a Facebook profile and the narcissist has told me she’s been asking about me to which he offered a fair amount of very convincing half truths. And now he’s hoovering me yet again. The temptation is strong to speak to her in a down-to-earth way, but how should I do this?
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