In this episode, I talk about the types of people narcissists are attracted to and why.
This is an older episode, and I use the term “codependent” to describe the types of people overt narcissists are attracted to, but I feel that needs some more explaining. I was using the term “codependent” to refer to the kind of person who is an “over-giver.” Someone who continually gives a person second and twenty-second chances, doesn’t have any deal breakers or solid boundaries, and who is quick to put others (especially overt narcissists) first and themselves last. I also touch on in the end that not all people who act this way are necessarily codependent. (My definition of codependency is where one person clings to relationships because they need others to make them feel loved or “complete” often with disastrous consequences.) Many people who are/were forever holding onto hope that another person could change, and putting their wants and needs last (myself included) do so because they may not have ever realized that dangerous and destructive people could be in their lives as a significant other, parent, friend, coworker, therapist, etc. This simply wasn’t on our radar, and so once we know better, we can start to do better.
My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.
Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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