Learning to trust again isn’t easy, but it is possible. The key is really in taking things slow, and responding to red flags when you see them. In this episode, I talk about learning to trust and some thoughts about what to look for in a relationship.
I didn’t mention this in the episode, but I wish I had–I think a great way to get out there to start meeting people is through meetup.com. It’s not a dating site, and many meetups are free or low cost. It can be a wonderful way to expand your support system and get back into life and try new things–including trying your skills with observing people and learning to trust again. It’s a lot easier to start trying to rebuild your ability to trust with friends than it is to dive into dating and rebuild trust with people with whom you may feel a strong emotional connection to. The reason being, it’s really hard to see a person’s behavior clearly when we have a strong emotional investment in their behavior being something other than we want it to be. This is why we experience cognitive dissonance and the confusion and denial that comes with it.
My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.
Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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