Love Bombing: YouTube Video on the #1 Red Flag of a Narcissist

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What is Love Bombing?

Love bombing is a technique where a Narcissist (or other manipulative person) “bombs” their target with constant communication and complements. Oftentimes love bombing quickly escalates from a few back and forth emails, to communicating for hours (sometimes 6+ a day)! Love bombing is very common with online scammers, and victims often mistake this constant attention and flattery as a real relationship that is progressing quickly. Love bombing is often the first sign with a covert Narcissist, and easy to spot once you know what to look for!

There are many Narcissists out there. Thankfully, they come with red flags. Learn the red flags and be able to spot highly manipulative people sooner than later.

(Here is a link to all of the “Red Flags of a Narcissist” series articles and videos in a list. I will be putting this link at the bottom of all the articles and videos so you can refer back to them in an easier-to-find way.)

This “Red Flag of a Narcissist” series is not designed to diagnose anyone with a personality disorder. It is designed to present a broad brush look at behaviors that most (if not all) manipulative people tend to have (not just Narcissists). Not all of these red flags are a signal to run for the hills, and a person doesn’t need to have ALL of these flags present to be dangerous or destructive. 

These red flags also occur on a spectrum, meaning that they will be more obvious and troublesome in some people, and not so much in others. 

At the same time, keep in mind that EVERYONE has some of these red flags—however, manipulative people tend to have them to a more troubling degree than normal, non-manipulative people. Keep in mind that Narcissists and Antisocial Personality Disordered people’s red flag behavior is more driven by their lack empathy and remorse, desire to manipulate and exploit other people for their personal gain, which is often not the case with those without these disorders. So don’t panic if you see some of your behavior in these red flags, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a Narcissist, or have a personality disorder. 🙂

 

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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse.

My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.

Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.

It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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I am a self-help junkie, former advocate for victims of domestic violence, current psychiatric RN, as well as being a recovering victim of Narcissistic abuse. My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life. Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics. It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.

8 Comments

  1. Well done Dana, great info, great filming, great communication. I think the difference between a church love bombing and a narcissist love bombing is the church is genuine and its about wanting the best for the person, to see them happy, to see them grow, to see their life become better whereas the narcissist never wants best for the person they are bombing.

  2. Hi Dana,

    Thank you all your videos …

    I’m a Belgian 37 year old man and I also seemed a Narcist-(Victim) magnet. So finally, I read a dutch book on this subject. It was pretty hard to grasp and to confront with this information because it’s all so true and recognizable. But it gave me so much answer! Knowing it earlier could have saved me a lot of trouble, but really, I’m doing pretty fine now. It’s also true when you say you may feel alone if you know all this, because only few people do.

    And oh yes, I had a couple of them in my life ever since my childhood (my mother and – even worse – my so called Brother). After their final attacks they both are on a “No contact” diet now (and off course they will turn the tables around when talking about how this has happened 🙂

    By the time I discovered your videos I already had read a lot of info about the main characteristics and techniques they use.
    But the way you present the videos makes the subject lighter, even funny and it even makes me laugh! As well with my own mistakes I made (by over and over again ignoring red flags because of “giving people another 25 chances”, ass well with the funny and mad examples you talk about … Anyway. Thx a lot.

    I’m studying all the red flags now, cause I feel you’re 100% correct when you say “they are everywhere , so don’t worry about attracting them, make sure you know the red flags, have strong boundaries en get them out asap when the red flags are obvious”. That was a very good piece of advice.

    Kind regards from Belgium
    D

  3. Yes, that is a VERY valid point. Intention is everything. Just like so many of the other red flags, are red flags that a lot of us have (fragmented relationships, poor financial mgmt, rushing intimacy, history of addiction, etc.), the red flag is a sign to slow down and gather more info as to the intention of the person as well as to how much of a red flag impacts their life–and why. And of course, if this is a red flag/behavior that you/we would want to take on.

  4. I’m glad my videos are helping, and I hope that in this next chapter of your life is full of health and healing. <3

    If you are interested in getting some feedback and support as you move forward with developing boundaries and healthy standards, I would encourage you to join the support group: http://www.NarcissistSupport.com/forum <3

  5. Dana, how many red flags should we notice before running away? While most of the red flags would make me very weary, there are a few that don’t seem too ‘dangerous’, such as having a strong sex drive or being poor financial managers. What is your opinion?

  6. Great question, and you’re right–some of of the red flags aren’t deal breaker kinda flags (like strong sex drive or intelligent) –although poor financial managers could be a deal breaker for someone. A person with problematic behavior may not have a lot of these red flags–they only need a few in order to cause destruction in a person’s life. I would encourage you to go slow and really get to a know a person and see if they red flags they have are problematic for you, and if so, how big of a problem they are in this person’s life. Also, the healthier you get, and the more you have your ducks in a row, the less you will want to date (or befriend) people with problematic behavior. <3

  7. Found this website yesterday, bexause i’m in a need to learn everything I can about narcissism, since i’m in a realtionship with on at this moment, and need to empower myself, so i can leave it, with minimum damage, since may finantial place right now is bankrupcy. i gave decide i’ll fight back, and he will not be smarter tahn me, I just have to learn everything I can. So, searching for more information, came across with you, and i’m just simply loving it. it’s the most full of infformation webiste I have encountered, and with all the comments from all sorts of humans that are or have experenced sonthing like me, I now feel normal and understood. I even and one pshycologist, saying, once I told him, I suspect that my boyfriend is a Narcissist, do you really need to find a problem or a word to define him?, And at that time I felt that i was the one being judged….now I understand why…we are the one’s that look like crazy, lunatic people…Well, I will post more often, may own adventure, bu just wanted to teel you that i loved it…i’m at work, alone, so i just saw your first video, not something I can do around him, and don’t feel like stoping, but better do some of my job…don’t want to be fired at this time…if my english doesn’t get there in the best conditions,sorry, i’m portuguese, so maybe some mistakes coming up…well, see ya, gotta go!!!!

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