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We are each responsible for all of our experiences.
Every thought we think is creating our future.
Our point of power is always in the present moment.
Everyone suffers from self-hated and guilt. The bottom line for everyone is, “I’m not good enough.”
Every belief is only a thought, and a thought can be changed.
We create every so-called illness in our body.
Resentment, criticism, and guilt are the most damaging patterns—and lead to most diseases.
Releasing resentment will dissolve even cancer.
We must release the past and forgive everyone.
We must be willing to begin to learn to love ourselves.
Self-approval and self-acceptance in this current moment are the keys to positive changes.
When we really love ourselves, everything in our lives works.
Reframe your beliefs. Change your beliefs of self-hatred to “Love is everywhere, and I am loving and lovable.”
We are all victims of victims. Our parents were victims of their parents (and society), who were victims of their parents (and society) and so on. But awareness and unconditional love can change all of this.
We have a tendency to re-create the emotional environment of our early home life. We also tend to recreate our personal relationships we had with our mothers or fathers or what they had between them. We also treat ourselves the way our parents treated us. We scold and punish ourselves in the same way. We also love and encourage ourselves in the same way.
We learn our beliefs as very little children and then we move through life creating experiences to match our beliefs.
The more self-hated and guilt we have the less our lives work—on all levels.
Resentment, criticism, guilt, and fear cause more problems than anything else. These four things come from not taking responsibility for our own experiences. We are all responsible for everything in our lives, and there is no one to blame. Whatever is happening “out there” is only a mirror of our own inner thinking. (This is not to condone other people’s poor behavior, but it is OUR beliefs that attract people that treat us this way.) If we find ourselves saying, “Everyone always does such and such to me (criticizes, treats me like a doormat, abuses me,”) then this is OUR PATTERN. There is some thought in you that attracts people who exhibit this behavior. When you no longer think this way, they will move onto someone else. You will no longer attract them, and they will no longer be attracted to you.
Long-standing resentment can eat away at the body and become cancer.
Criticism as a permanent habit can (and does) often lead to arthritis.
Pain in the body is from guilt. Guilt always looks for punishment and punishment creates pain.
Fear, and the tension it produces can create baldness, ulcers, and even sore feet.
We need to choose to release the past and forgive everyone, ourselves included. Even if we don’t know how. Willingness to find a way begins the healing process. “I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be. I forgive you and I set you free.”
Whenever we are ill, we need to search our hearts to see who it is we need to forgive. The Course in Miracles says that “all disease comes from a state of unforgiveness” and that “whenever we are ill, we need to look around to see who it is that we need to forgive.”
…The person you find it hardest to forgive is the one you need to let go of the most. (Forgiveness means letting go of resentment, it does not mean condoning behavior.)
Whenever people have a problem Louise always worked on having them love themselves. Because when we really love and accept ourselves and approve of ourselves EXACTLY AS WE ARE, then everything in life works. Once this happens then our thinking matches our actions matches our feelings matches our highest and best self/source.
Everything that is disempowering or all states of dis-ease melt away. Our health improves, we attract more money, our relationships become much more fulfilling, we become more creative, our weight normalizes. We begin seeing little miracles everywhere—and all this happens without us trying.
When our lives are working/out-of-balance in some way: not enough money, in pain, overweight, don’t like our job, etc. it’s due to our inner thought patterns.
Listen to the words you (and others) use when answering these questions:
- How is your health?
- What do you do for a living?
- Do you like your work?
- How are your finances?
- How is your love life?
- How did the last relationship end?
- And the relationship before that—how did it end?
- …Tell about your childhood briefly. (then watch for body posture and facial movements and pay attention to words they say, as thoughts and words create our future experiences. The words we speak are a sign of our inner thoughts. Sometimes the words they use do not match the experiences they describe. Then I know that they are either not in touch with what is really going on, or that are lying to me. Either one is a starting point and gives us a basis from which to begin.)
I Should ____________________________________________________. Then list 5-6 things. Then ask them, “why?” This will tell you where they are stuck in their beliefs, and what they think their limitations are. Next Louise asks them to replace the word should with the word “could.” (Should always implies judgment.) And then asks them to reread the list one at a time, except this time to begin each sentence by saying, “If I really wanted to, I could ____________.” This puts a whole new light on the subject. As they do this, I ask them gently, “Why haven’t you?” Now we hear different answers such as:
I don’t want to.
I am afraid.
I don’t know how.
Because I am not good enough.
Oftentimes people berate themselves for years for something they never wanted to do in the first place. When they see that they never wanted to do this thing to begin with, they drop it from the “should list.”
What could you drop from your “should” list?
What we give out, we get back.
The only thing Louise ever works on with anyone is loving themselves. This isn’t about vanity or arrogance or being stuck-up, for that is not love, that is fear. Loving ourselves has to do with having a great respect and gratitude for the miracle of our bodies and our minds.
Some of the ways we don’t love ourselves are:
Scolding and criticizing ourselves endlessly.
We mistreat our bodies with food, alcohol, and drugs.
We choose to believe we are unlovable.
We are afraid to charge for our services.
We create illness and pain in our bodies.
We procrastinate on things that would benefit us.
We live in chaos and disorder.
We create debt and burdens.
We attract lovers and mates who belittle us.
Some examples of some ways I haven’t loved myself in the past:
*I have settled for crumbs in the past—people, places, things, ideas that were much less than what I really wanted, but convinced myself I needed to be reasonable
* I ate food that wasn’t in alignment with who I am
* I had clothes, pots and pans, Tupperware, a bike, friendships, relationships, lived in states (NM) that wasn’t in alignment with who I was.
*I had a messy house, messy finances, messy car.
How I love myself now:
* I am learning to tune into how I feel and to tell the difference between a need (craving) and a want (thoughtful 9/10 decision).
* I take time to nourish myself and fill my buckets before they get low
* I am setting healthy boundaries with myself and others and feeling empowered by it (instead of guilty, bad, or uncomfortable)
* I am realizing what my limits are
* I am developing an attitude of abundance and moving towards people, places, things, and ideas that empower me
* I am learning how to make myself feel good
* I am learning to release judgment and resentment against others and against myself
* I am taking time for affirmations with the intention of raising the vibration of my thinking
Lack of self-worth is another expression of not loving ourselves. We undercharge, give too much of our time or emotions. We sink ourselves to save others. People with wealth love to pay a lot for what they get; it gives the item more value.
Examples of low self-worth:
Our partner is grouchy and tired. We wonder what we have done wrong to cause it.
He takes us out once or twice and never calls again. We think something must be wrong with us.
We are afraid to ask for a raise. We don’t think we are worthy.
We are afraid to set a boundary. We are scared they might leave.
Our bodies don’t look like those in the magazine. We feel inferior.
We are afraid of intimacy and allowing anyone to get too close, so we have anonymous sex.
We can’t make decisions because we are afraid they will be wrong.
- Babies are born believing that they are the center of the Universe. They are not afraid to ask for what they want. …Tiny babies will die if they do not get love. (Love is energy/nourishment.)
- Mirror work: pick up a mirror and, look into your eyes and say your name, “(Our name), I love and accept you exactly as you are.”
- Being overweight is always fear based and a need for protection. (In the animal kingdom, it’s fattening up for a scarce time like winter. It’s a survival mechanism that is based on an attitude of scarcity, and a need to ensure our survival.)
- *Time accelerates all things. It can really bring about a huge attitude of scarcity, and our coping methods often get worse as we are spending so much time cultivating them!
- *Get to know yourself and then wait for inspired thought in order to take inspired action (this is the difference between acting on a craving and a thoughtful 9/10 decision)
- Loving ourselves begins with never, ever criticizing ourselves for anything. She would ask if they criticize themselves, and they’d say, “Well of course I do, or all the time, or not as much as I used to, or well how am I going to change if I don’t criticize myself? Then she asks, “What is wrong that you feel needs criticizing or that you are critical of?” Then she makes a list. This list often coincides with their “should” list. “too fat/thin, tall/short, too late/too early/too young/too old/too lazy/too driven, etc.” It’s almost always “too” something. The bottom line is always they are not good enough.
- We are all doing the best we can with the understanding, awareness, and knowledge we have. As we gain more understanding, awareness, and knowledge then we can do things differently.
- If you want to clean a room thoroughly, you must pick up and examine everything in it. (*I didn’t do this—my focus used to be and still kinda is, just about putting things away.) We need to see if we need to dust, polish, mend, repair, recycle, toss, donate these items. We clean and organize our physical house and we need to clean and sort our emotional house too.
- Exercise: Get a sheet of paper and make a list of all the things your parents said were wrong with you. What were the negative messages you heard? (Give yourself about 30 min to do this.)
- What did they say about money? Your body? About love and relationships? Your creative talents? What were the limiting or negative things they said to you? (*Also what was implied.)
- What other negative emotions did you get from your different spheres of influence? (From relatives, from teachers, from friends, from authority figures, from your church.)
- Write them all down. Take your time. Be aware of what feelings are going on in your body.
- *”Warning signs” something is off: jealousy, gossiping/talking negative/criticizing others, over/under weight. Finances being off. Scarcity mindset. Saying “I don’t know.” Depression, anxiety, disease, some sort of lack or excess (weight, money, relationships, etc.) sarcasm, sleeping too much or not enough, bad dreams, biting nails (bad habits—to addictions) messy environments.
- Empowerment of ourselves and others (she uses the example of little children) leads to tremendous growth. Disempowerment leads to shame, guilt, fear/stagnation.
- We all have our inner three year old and most of us spend time yelling at him/her and then we wonder why our lives don’t work.
- In front of you is the list of negative messages you heard as a child. How does this list correspond with what you believe to be wrong with you? Are they the same? (Generally they are.)
- We base our life script on our early messages.
- Understanding of where our parents came from (especially their childhood before the age of ten) leads to compassion.
- Results we get in life is just feedback of our understanding of knowledge. It’s not a measure of self-worth.
- There is no absolute truth, there is only our perception of truth. Something is only true if we believe it to be true.
- Look at the problems in your life. Ask yourself, “What kind of thoughts am I having that create this?” If you allow yourself to sit quietly and ask this question, your inner intelligence will show you the answer.
- We become what we think about. If we want a joyous life, we must think joyous thoughts. If we want a prosperous life, we must think prosperous thoughts. If we want a loving life, we must think loving thoughts.
- When there is a problem, there is not something to do, there is something to know. – Dr. Raymond Charles Barker (because our thoughts are what create problems and pain)
- School topics she recommends: how the mind works, how to handle finances, how to invest money for financial security, how your thoughts work, how to be a parent, how to create good relationships, how to create and maintain self-esteem and self-worth.
- In order for our life situations to change, we must change. (our external environment is a reflection of our internal environment.)
- Be willing to change. A resistance to change often manifests as: changing the subject, leaving the room, going to the bathroom, getting sick, being late, procrastinating, wasting time, getting busy, sleeping, reading, refusing to pay attention, eating/drinking/smoking/shopping, creating or ending a relationship, creating breakdowns/not maintaining things (cars, plumbing, appliances, etc.)
- Look into a mirror and say something positive every time you pass one. The most powerful way to do affirmations is to look in the mirror and say them out loud. You will be immediately aware of the resistance and can move through it quicker. It’s good to a have a mirror with you as you read this book. Use it often for affirmations and to check where you are resisting and where you are open and flowing.
- Every habit we have is because there is a need within us for it. The need corresponds to some belief we have. If there was no need, we wouldn’t have it, do it, or be it. Tell yourself, “I am willing to release the NEED for _________ (the extra weight, the messy car, the debt, etc.)
- Exercise: Say aloud, “I am willing to release the need to be _______. I am worthy of the very best in life and I now lovingly allow myself to accept it.” “As I internally create a pattern of self-worth, then I no longer have the need to delay my good.”
- Sometimes when we are working on affirmations, things may get worse. This is not a bad thing, this is a sign that things are moving.
- You can tell if you’ve fully released that need if your results/outer environment changes (you no longer crave cigarettes, or uncomfortable relationships)
- You mind is a powerful tool that you can use in any way that you wish. If you think something will be hard or easy or take a long time, or isn’t possible then it isn’t.
- Retraining your mind to think new thoughts can be a challenge at first. It’s the “beginner’s mind” and there is somewhat of a learning curve to thinking new thoughts. Stick with it. (Just like with giving a child a new bedtime who previously didn’t have one.)
- Let go. Relax your face, your tongue, your back and abdomen and pelvis. Say to yourself, “I am willing to let go. I release. I let go. I release all tension. I release all fear. I release all anger. I release all guilt. I release all sadness. I let go of all old limitations. I let go and I am at peace. I am at peace with myself. I am at peace with the process of life. I am safe.” (Go over this exercise 2 or 3 times.)
- Physical releasing. Experiences and emotions can get locked in the body. Screaming with the car windows rolled up can be very releasing if we’ve been stifling our verbal expression. Beating the bed or kicking pillows is a harmless way to release pent-up anger, as is playing tennis or running.
- Pay attention to your pain. Embrace it. Enter it. What does it feel like? Burning = anger. Ask yourself what you are angry about.
- Let go of the past. We often tell ourselves (maybe subconsciously) that because I did poorly at my first audition, I cannot live a full life today. Or that because I was hurt by a remark once, I will never trust anyone again. Or because I cheated/lied/was an addict, I must punish myself forever.
- Because I grew up feeling unloved, I will always struggle with feeling unloved.
- How willing are you to let go of the past? Notice your reactions. What will you have to do to let these things go? How willing are you to do so? What is your resistance level?
- Allow the memories to just be memories. Detach emotionally from them—watch them go by.
- The Next Step: Forgiveness
- When we do not flow freely with the present moment, it usually means that we are holding onto a past moment. It can be regret, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, blame, anger, resentment, even revenge. Each of these emotions comes from a space of unforgiveness, a refusal to let go and come into the present moment. Love is always the answer to healing of any sort. The pathway to love is forgiveness. Forgiveness dissolves resentment. (Again, forgiveness is where we release the anger we are holding against someone—it doesn’t mean that we are okay with what happened to us, or that we need to let that person back into our life.)
- Exercise: Dissolving Resentment by Emmet Fox. Sit quietly, close your eyes, and allow your mind and body to relax. Then imagine yourself sitting in a darkened theater, and in front of me is a small stage. On that stage, place the person you resent the most. It could be someone in the past, present, living or dead. When you see this person clearly, visualize good things happening to them—things that would be meaningful to them. See them smiling and happy. Hold this image for a few minutes, then let it fade away. As this person leaves the stage, put yourself up there. See good things happening to you. See yourself smiling and happy. Be aware that the abundance of the Universe is available to all of us. Do this once a day for a month. …You may find that a different person comes to the stage every time you do it.
- Exercise: Dissolving Revenge Close your eyes and sit quietly and peacefully. Think of the people who are hardest to forgive. What would you really like to do to them? What do they need to do to get your forgiveness? Imagine that happening now. Get into the details. How long do you want them to suffer or do penance? When you feel complete, condense time and let it be over forever. Usually at this point you will feel lighter, and it is easier to think about forgiveness. Just do this once as a closing exercise.
- Exercise: Sit quietly and say, “the person I need to forgive is _________ and I forgive you for _____________. I set you free now.” Do this over and over. You will have many things to forgive some for and only one or two to forgive others for. When you have cleared as much as you can for now, turn your attention to yourself. Say out loud to yourself, “I forgive myself for ______.” Do this for another five minutes or so. These are powerful exercises and good to do at least once a week to clear out any remaining rubbish. Some are easy to let go of, and some we might have to chip away at, until suddenly one day they let go and dissolve.
- Exercise: Begin to see yourself as a little child or five or six. See the longing that is there and that the only thing this little child wants from you is love. Reach out and embrace this child. Hold it with love and tenderness. Tell it how much you love it, how much you care. Admire everything about this child and say that it’s okay to make mistakes while learning. Promise you will always be there no matter what. Now let this child get very small, until it is just the size to fit into your heart. Put it there so whenever you look down, you can see this little face looking up at you and you can give it lots of love. (I’m crying now.) …Now picture your mother as a little girl around 4 or 5, frightened and looking for love and not knowing where to find it. Reach out your arms and hold this little girl and let her know how much you love her, no matter what. When she quiets down, let her get very small, just the size to fit into your heart. Put her there with your own little child. Let them give each other lots of love. Now imagine your father as a little boy of three or four is there—he’s frightened, crying, and looking for love. See the tears rolling down his face when he doesn’t know when to turn. You reach out and hold his trembling body. Comfort him. Croon to him. Let him know how much you love him and let him feel that you will always be there for him. When he feels safe and loved, imagine him very small—just the size to fit into your heart. Put him there so all three of the little children can give each other lots of love and you can love them all.
- There is so much love in your heart that you could heal the entire planet—but for now let us use this love to heal you. Feel the glow and warmth of this love. Let this feeling begin to change the way you think and talk about yourself.
- What you put your attention on grows. Turn negative affirmations into positive ones. So instead of “I don’t want to be fat” say, “I am slender.” Instead of, “I don’t want to be broke” say, “I am prosperous.” Instead of, “I don’t want to be old” say, “I am eternally young.” Instead of, “I don’t’ want to be lonely” say, “I am filled with love and affection.”
- State your affirmations in the present tense because your subconscious mind is very literal. If you say, “I want to be fit and toned” then the results you want will always stay in the future! Change this belief to “I am fit and toned.” (The key is to really believe your affirmations, which can be hard because what we see doesn’t line up with what we want. …We have to find a way to believe what we are saying, as the power comes from the belief, and not just saying the words.)
- Exercise: Over the next month, say to yourself 300-400 times a day, “I approve of myself.” This may sound like a lot, but it isn’t. After all, when we have a problem, we tend to go over it at least that many times. Let this phrase become your new mantra. Saying, “I approve of myself” is a guaranteed way to bring up everything buried in your consciousness that is in opposition. When negative thoughts come up such as, “How can I approve of myself when I am fat?” Or, “It’s silly to think this can do any good.” Gently say to these thoughts, “I let you go; I approve of myself.” All of these types of thoughts are resistance thoughts and they have no power over you unless you choose to believe them.
- Our thoughts have no power in and of themselves. It’s the meaning we give to those thoughts that have all the power. (In other words, if you want to change your life, change the meaning you associate to your thoughts.)
- Let us choose to think thoughts that nourish and support us. Part of self-acceptance is releasing other people’s opinions. If someone were to call us a “purple pig” we would think they were crazy—we wouldn’t get upset by this and nothing in their view of us rings true. …Don’t let anyone steal your self-esteem.
- Often what we think of as the things “wrong” with us, are only our expressions of our own individuality. However, there are no duplicates on this planet. Nothing is the same. We are meant to be different. When we can accept this, then there is no competition and no comparison.
- Put your awareness into practice: think thoughts that make you feel good. Be around people who make you feel good. Eat things that make you feel good. Go at a pace that makes you feel good.
- Exercise: Create New Changes. Take your list of things that are wrong with you, and turn them into positive affirmations. Or you can list all the changes you want to make and have and do. Then select three from this list and turn them into positive affirmations. Ex: “I should get organized.” “I should lose weight.” Now say, “I am willing to release the pattern in me that created these conditions.” You could now say something like, “I am willing to release the pattern in me that created these conditions.” “I have a happy, slender/fit body.” “I am in the process of positive changes.” “I am now very well organized.” “I love and approve of myself.” “I trust the process of life to bring me my highest good.” “I deserve the best, and I accept it now.”
- Exercise: “I deserve.” Do you believe that you deserve to have your desire? If you don’t you won’t allow yourself to have it. Circumstances beyond your control will crop up to frustrate you. “I deserve to have or be ________, and I accept it now.” Say it two or three times. How do you feel? Always pay attention to your feelings, to what is going on in your body. Does it feel true, or do you still feel unworthy? If you have any negative feelings in your body, then go back to affirming, “I release the pattern in my consciousness that is creating resistance to my good.” “I deserve __________.” Repeat this until you get the acceptance feelings, even if you have to do it several days in a row.
- We are continually learning, and need to be kind and patient with ourselves in the process. Say to yourself often, “I’m doing the best I can.”
- Always support yourself. Focus on what you are doing right. She told herself after her first lecture, “You were absolutely fantastic for your first time! By the time you’ve done 5-6 of these you’ll be a pro!” I few hours later she said, “I think we could change a few things. Let’s adjust this, and let’s adjust that.” She refused to criticize myself in any way.
- Reinforce your learning/new ways of thinking. You could: express gratitude, write affirmations, sit in meditation, enjoy exercise, practice good nutrition, speak affirmations aloud, sign affirmations, take time for relaxation exercises, using visualization/mental imagery, reading and studying.
- Every morning: Our first thoughts upon awakening before we open our eyes are to be thankful for everything we can think of. Then after a shower, take half an hour or so to meditate and do affirmations and prayers. Then exercise, then a healthy breakfast for which she gives thanks for. Then she does affirmations in the mirror, usually something like, “Louise, you are wonderful, and I love you. This is one of the best days of your life. Everything I working out for your highest good. Whatever you need to know is revealed to you. Ehatever you need comes to you. All is well.” In the evening she studies or reads. She may also write out her affirmations 10-20 times. As she is going to bed, she collects her thoughts, and goes over the events of the day and blesses each activity. She affirms that she will sleep deeply and soundly, awakening in the morning bright and refreshed and looking forward to the new day.
- Exercise: “Us vs. Them” Look for a moment at someone in your life who bothers you. Describe three things about this person that you don’t like, things that you want him or her to change. Now look deeply inside of you and ask yourself, “Where am I like that, and when do I do the same things?” Close your eyes and give yourself the time to do this. Then ask yourself if you are willing to change. When you remove these patterns, habits, and beliefs from your thinking and behavior, either the other person will change or he or she will leave your life.
- Exercise: Attracting love. Set your standards. List the qualities in yourself, and you will attract a person who has them. You might examine what may be keeping love away. Could it be feelings of unworthiness? Fear of intimacy? A belief that you are unlovable? Be ready for love when it comes. Be loving and you will be lovable. Be open and receptive to love.
- Success. When a little child is learning to walk or talk, we encourage him and praise him for every tiny improvement he makes. The child beams and eagerly tries to do better. Is this the way you encourage yourself when you are learning something new? Or do you make it harder to learn because you tell yourself that you are stupid, clumsy, or a failure?
- Say an affirmation everyday. The one I like is, “Everything I touch is a success.” Don’t worry about how you will accomplish any of these ideas. Let the thoughts swim around in your subconscious and let your intelligence guide the way.
- Do you feel you deserve happiness and prosperity? You do. The Universe has an inexhaustible supply of everything. Begin to be aware of it. The stars in the sky, the seeds in a tomato—and each seed is capable of bringing forth a whole vine of other tomatoes.
- Make room for the new. Keep the flow of things moving through you. If you get a gift, say thank you. If you can’t use it, pass it on to someone else. Keep the flow of things moving through you.
- Clean out the clutter, clean out your fridge, clean out your closets. A cluttered environment is a sign of a cluttered mind.
- Love your bills. Bills are a sign that a creditor trusted you with their money. Bless your bills and pay them joyously. If you pay with resentment money has a hard time in coming back to you. If you pay with love and joy, you open the free flowing channel of abundance. Money is your friend. It is not something you wad up and crush in your pocket. Your security is not your job, or your bank account, or your investment, or your spouse or your parents. Your security is your ability to connect with the cosmic power that creates all things.
- Bless you telephone, your doorbell, your front door, knowing that only good comes into my home. If you expect your life to be good and joyous it is.
- Visualize abundance. What kind of container are you holding? Is it a thimble? A bowl? A bucket? A never-ending pipeline connected to abundance?
- Sit with your arms open and say, “I am open and receptive to all the good and abundance in the Universe.” The Universe can only distribute what we have in our consciousness, and I can always create more in our consciousness.
- When it comes to money, develop the mindset of, “I am open and receptive to new avenues of income.” “I now receive money from expected and unexpected sources.” “I am an unlimited being accepting from an unlimited source in an unlimited way.”
- Our body: “I listen with love to my body’s messages.” Each body part corresponds to different emotions. Example: Our vision may become blurry/blindness if there are things we do not want to see in our environment. We may experience hearing loss or chronic ear aches if there are things we don’t want to hear. If we have throat issues, we may have issues with anger or with expressing ourselves. If we have a chronic cough it may be due to our throat and lungs getting tight at hearing certain things.
- Pain is an indication of guilt. Guilt always seeks punishment, and punishment creates pain. Pay attention to what was said or what was going on right before you coughed. Being overweight represents a need for protection from hurts, criticism, abuse, sexuality, or from a fear of life in general. When the insecurity goes away, the weight does too.
- In the book, Louise Hay goes into great depth listing each ailment to different emotional causes–everything ranging from poor eye sight to vertigo.
Perhaps the most inspiring part of the book is at the end where Louise shares her personal story–which is full of enough hurt and heartache for several lifetimes. I love that she was able to not only survive her childhood, but that she’s been able to thrive because of it. She really is such an inspiration and proof that if she can overcome trauma and tragedy, then so can the rest of us. <3
I hope you find my notes useful. I will be posting my top 5-7 take aways on this book here in the near future! 😀
My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.
Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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