This is red flag #19 in the “Red Flags of a Narcissist” series. Red Flag #19 is a “Parasitic Existence”.
Narcissists are known for their sense of entitlement–in fact it’s one of the nine criteria that qualifies a person to be officially diagnosed with having Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Oftentimes their sense of entitlement makes them moochers (or financial parasites). It’s not uncommon for a Narcissist to quit (or get fired from) their job, sponge off their partner and/or parents, children (or anyone else who will let them). Not only do they often talk others into paying their share of their rent, or bills, but it’s not uncommon for them to talk victims into buying them cars, paying off their debt, or paying for anything else they want–even if they have a job! Narcissists have the mindset of what’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is mine, and trying to get them out of life can be really hard to do.
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One last thing…
This “Red Flag of a Narcissist” series is not designed to diagnose anyone with a personality disorder. It is designed to present a broad brush look at behaviors that most (if not all) manipulative people tend to have (not just Narcissists). Not all of these red flags are a signal to run for the hills, and a person doesn’t need to have ALL of these flags present to be dangerous or destructive.
These red flags also occur on a spectrum, meaning that they will be more obvious and troublesome in some people, and not so much in others.
At the same time, keep in mind that EVERYONE has some of these red flags—however, manipulative people tend to have them to a more troubling degree than normal, non-manipulative people. Keep in mind that Narcissists and Antisocial Personality Disordered people’s red flag behavior is more driven by their lack empathy and remorse, desire to manipulate and exploit other people for their personal gain, which is often not the case with those without these disorders. So don’t panic if you see some of your behavior in these red flags, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a Narcissist, or have a personality disorder.
My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.
Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.
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- Episode 55: How Do I Stop My Addiction to the Narcissist? - August 23, 2017
- Episode 53: Strategies to Help Prevent Your Child from Being Manipulated by a Narcissistic Parent - August 21, 2017
- Episode 54: How can we handle victim blaming and revictimization? - August 18, 2017