Red Flag of a Narcissist #26: Gas Lighting
Gas lighting is a term that describes manipulative techniques done by emotional abusers. The term was coined by Psychiatrists after a 1944 film starring Ingrid Bergman. In the movie, Bergman’s husband has murdered his aunt in an attempt to steal her jewels–and once his wife has stumbled onto his plan, he spends the rest of the movie trying to drive her insane. He spends his evenings searching the attic of the aunt’s home (which they now live in) for the jewels. Everytime he is up there, and turns the gas lights on, it makes the lights downstairs flicker. She notices that they are flickering, and he tells her that they look fine to him. Throughout the movie he continues to slowly erode her sanity by telling her small lies and making her question reality. Click here to read the full article on Gas lighting, as well as to see the movie.
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