Red Flag of a Narcissist #28: Craves Power and Control
All Narcissists are driven to feed their ego. They do this by having total power and control in all situations–whether you know it or not.
Some Narcissists are more obvious about maintaining power and control than others. Many Covert Narcissists may even come across like the exact opposite of a Narcissist–like they couldn’t care less about power and control.
But make no mistake, behind the scenes they are doing whatever they want, with whomever they want, and as much as they want and they will expect you to be okay with it if they are caught.
Highly manipulative, entitled and selfish people always expect to get their way, and don’t take it well if they are challenged.
If this behavior is driving you to the drink of hurting yourself, please don’t. There are many good, caring, on-the-level people out there who care about you. You are not the only one going through the crazy making of a Narcissistic relationship. Please hang in there and get help.
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All manipulative people have about the same predictably unpredictable behavior. The good news is that they all come with the same set of red flags. Learn the red flags and empower yourself with the knowledge you need to help you steer clear of toxic behaviors. Click here to watch the full playlist of the “Red Flags of a Narcissist” series.
*Keep in mind as you are watching these red flags videos, that the vast majority of people out there have behaviors or situations that could be considered upon first glance to be red flags.
The goal with this series is to slow a relationship down enough when (not if) you see red flags surface so that you can gather more information to determine if the red flag falls within the realm of normal, understandable, (and acceptable to you) behavior, or if it is in fact problematic and a sign for you to get out of there.
If you are watching these videos on the different red flags, and find yourself wondering if you are a Narcissist or other highly manipulative, destructive or dangerous person, just know that questioning your own behavior–and seeing red flags within it, is totally normal.
I would encourage you to take a moment and ask yourself if you have empathy, remorse, a care and concern about your behavior on others, and a sincere desire to change any problematic behavior you might have. If you answered yes to these things, then any behaviors that you do have that you believe are problematic can most likely be changed given enough hard work and determination. 🙂
(Narcissists and other highly manipulative people tend to not change because they don’t ever sincerely think that they have the problem–plus they not only like getting their way, they feel they are entitled to it.)
We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change. So please don’t panic.
I encourage you to work on changing any behavior that you feel is problematic, and then let us know how you are going about making those changes and your lessons learned–maybe, together we can all help each other to not only avoid manipulative, dangerous, or destructive people, but also become better people by ironing out wrinkles in our behavior along the way. 🙂
My goal is to educate, empower, and inspire other abuse victims in understanding more about what happened to them (and how to prevent it from happening again), as well as how to go on and rebuild an amazing life.
Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
It's for these reasons, that when you are reading my information that I encourage you to hold to what helps, and let the rest go.