I get a lot of messages everyday from hurt and confused people out there. Like the rest of us, they are confused over what happened, as well as why and how it happened to them. They are looking for clarification and validation of what they went through, and reassurance that they can indeed reclaim their life and to make the transition from victim to survivor to what I call “thriver”.
Many of these emails start off with, “I know this sounds crazy, but…” and then they proceed to tell me a variation of the same story that we all share.
I’d like for them to not feel so alone in their pain, as we all know, a relationship with a Narcissist or Antisocial Personality Disordered person can lead to a lot of shame and embarrassment (among many other emotions).
I think it’s really validating for people to be able to hear a wide variety of survivor’s stories–and oftentimes for different reasons.
For those who are out of a toxic relationship, knowing that they aren’t alone in their pain can be very reassuring.
And for those that are still in a relationship, but on the fence as to whether or not what they are experiencing is part of the normal highs and lows of a relationship or troubling behavior, that they can hopefully see similar elements in other people’s stories–and seeing those similar behaviors will give them the clarity they need to make whatever decision they are ready to make at the time (hopefully in the direction of health and healing).
So if you would like to share your story, please do the following four things so I can make sure I’m posting exactly what you want me to post:
1. For safety’s sake, please don’t use real names, or last names.
2. Please email it to me at firstname.lastname@example.org in exactly the way you’d like for me to post it on this site.
3. Please include some sort of statement that you are allowing me to use your story on here.
4. Please let me know if you’d prefer your story to be anonymous, or if you’d like me to use a certain first name.
Thank you for being willing to share your story. <3