A smear campaign is a method of damage control that Narcissists implement when they are concerned about being found out. Most commonly this is done by the Narcissists tearing down their previous victim to make her look like the problem, and to make himself look like the victim. Since Narcissists hate to be alone (no one to mooch off of, or feed their ego), they often begin a smear campaign before their current relationship is over with the victim, so that the next pawns in his game are lined up. This is often done so that he can keep a stellar public image, as well as hook the next victim through pity. A common smear campaign involves portraying the former victim as some form of crazy, bipolar, addict, alcoholic, unstable, and/or bad parent. They will then create a series of lies, exaggerations, half-truths, suspicions and false allegations about the victim’s behavior that serve to undermine the victim’s credibility that the Narcissist is the problem. The victim often has no idea that a smear campaign has been launched against them until they start receiving rude or unusual behavior from people–even friends and family. The people that defend the Narcissist and seek to attack the victim are referred to as “Flying Monkeys”.
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Even though I have had a lot of "in the trenches" experience with highly manipulative people of all kinds, I consider myself to be a student of Narcissism, mindset, motivation, healing, and life in general, and am by no means an expert on any of these topics.
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