Hello and welcome!
I’m Dana, and I’m glad that you are here. If you are like most people who find their way to my website, you may be trying to better understand a confusing, crazy-making, toxic, or abusive relationship with someone in your life. And, again, if you are like most people, you may feel devastated, anxious, depressed, or flat-out exhausted with trying to figure out what’s going on or what else you could do in order to get through to this person, save your relationship, or, depending on where you are in your journey, heal yourself.
If you are fresh out of a relationship with a narcissistic, sociopathic, or otherwise manipulative or exploitative person, your life may be blown apart, and you may feel like the sole survivor walking amid the rubble wondering where and how to start rebuilding. What you may not realize is that you are in fact starting an exciting new chapter in your life. There is great opportunity in having your life blown apart.
The power in this is that you get to consciously rebuild your life piece-by-piece, creating a life that is authentic to you. I want to pause for a moment and share with you a concept that radically changed my life for the better. The concept was “Post-Traumatic Growth” or PTG. PTG is a very rare form of personal growth that can only happen after a traumatic event. I view this as almost a sacred window of time where there is destruction but the person is looking for help and isn’t comfortable living in the rubble. Radical personal growth can and does happen to people every day, and my goal is share with you all of the insights I’ve gained along the way, tools, exercises, and support as possible.
You are not alone. You are not crazy. You can heal from this.
The sunflower is our symbol as its a powerful reminder that the first step to putting the darkness of abuse behind us is to turn towards the light. In our situation, the light represents clarity, validation, compassion, and self-love. You are not alone and you can heal from this.